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I came across this earlier today and liked it, but I deliberately waited to comment because I wanted to sit with it for a while. I’ve found myself coming back to the argument several times throughout the day.

What stayed with me most was the idea that the problem isn’t simply that we notice differences, but that we inherit stories telling us which differences are supposed to matter and what they supposedly mean.

Your story about the girl looking for horns captures that almost perfectly. She didn’t discover something about you and then form a judgment. The judgment already existed, and she was looking at you through a story someone else had given her.

I also really appreciated your refusal to make the argument comfortable by pretending that experiencing exclusion necessarily makes someone immune to excluding others. The image of finally getting into the room and then possessing the keys is powerful precisely because it applies far beyond any one group.

This was a genuinely thoughtful piece. I’m glad I gave it some time before responding because I think there’s quite a bit here worth sitting with.

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